Comments for Desi Manifesto Blog: The Forum for South Asian American Men

Comment on The Ugly Truth, Part 3 by HMF

HMF — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 01:16:46 +0000

Yeah definitely, throw a couple slaves in the mix, a few nooses, maybe a genocide or two.. you could get things really cookin’. oh wait. been there done that.

Comment on The Ugly Truth, Part 3 by White Dude

White Dude — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 04:13:28 +0000

No, here!
Don’t knock it bros, we white dudes are havin’ the time of our lives!

Comment on Desi Dose: Desis on TV! Little Mosque on the Prairie on FOX, Aziz Ansari in ‘The Office’ Spinoff by Basement_Dweller

Basement_Dweller — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 18:12:12 +0000

Had an Asian friend complain about the lasting damage done by Long Duk Dong in “16 Candles”. Been a subject of many an Asian discussion board about the “denadding” of Asian men. Still pretty pervasive in social situations.

Comment on The Ugly Truth, Part 3 by HMF

HMF — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 23:39:58 +0000

You’re pretty spot on. Check out my blog for more truth

the-hmf.blogspot.com

although I take issue with this one

“ If we expect our women to hold down jobs and comport themselves properly in other spheres of life, we gotta walk the walk as well.”

Of course we gotta walk the walk. but we gotta walk the equal walk. not bend over backwards to their whim. Relationshps in this new age are based on equality. that is, each person does their fair share.

Comment on The Ugly Truth, Part 3 by S.I.

S.I. — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:17:03 +0000

“dude, are you for real?”

Dear Genius: Utterly, unequivocally, unmistakably real.

Comment on The Ugly Truth, Part 3 by been there, not bitter

been there, not bitter — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 06:36:52 +0000

you know its hard to sympathize with you, even empathize, and believe me i know what it feels like to be given the pass by a desi woman in favor of someone else, because of the racist angst that seems to be boiling over inside of you. “master”? “colonization”?
dude, are you for real? if so i think you suffer from a serious lack of self esteem. there is no “massa” and colonization is a thing of the past. get over it. i guess you got no probs with them dating black dudes then because they are still slaves, huh? or wait, you probably don’t KNOW any desi women dating black dudes, right? thought so. i also find your attitude sexist. a desi woman is going to “die alone” because she’s 33 and single? guess what? in usa MOST women are single at 33! 30 is the new 20 in case you haven’t heard. and believe me, a hot desi doctorni will NEVER have a hard time finding a spouse, especially with first gen desi immigrant parents at ground zero. she is the stuff our aunties and uncles live and die for. “my bahu is a doctor”, our moms lose sleep at night tossing and turning with the desire to say that. you think your parents would not just jump for joy at you marrying a desi doctor, even if she’s 40 and a few years older than you? come on! dude. beggars can’t be choosers. lower your bar. at this point it sounds like you’ll have to “settle” for the half desi half something else west indian girl from trinidad with a liberal arts degree and Lord Kitchener on her ipod.

Comment on A Brown Man in the West: The Ugly Truth by THATS your problem, right THERE!

THATS your problem, right THERE! — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 18:01:05 +0000

And the sad thing is, we would be willing to date you if you guys were a little bit (ok, ALOT) more humble.

Comment on A Brown Man in the West: The Ugly Truth by S.I.

S.I. — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 16:37:21 +0000

Hahaha, if you say so. Props on your fire though.

Comment on A Brown Man in the West: The Ugly Truth by THATS your problem, right THERE!

THATS your problem, right THERE! — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 08:54:09 +0000

When a desi man marries a desi woman, one of them is settling. Settling is unavoidable. For the desi man, he usually ends up with someone who is closer to his own level because he was unable to score the Ivy-League-graduate, Aiswarya look-a-like, professional, working, earning-in-6-digits-but-still-cooks-like-ma desi woman of his fantasy. Nope, instead he ends up with just another average desi woman. Why? Because he himself is just an average desi man. For the desi woman though the settling is of a different kind because while they may be an average desi woman of modest (but pleasant) looks, average job and income, still, if they would’ve married anyone but a desi man, they would have been treated with respect. But the desi husband will always think he “settled”. The delusional fantasy that somehow, even being an average desi man, still, he shoulda, woulda, coulda had an above average desi woman will always haunt him. And quite frankly that is the only reason arranged marriages still exist in our desi diaspora. Without that, you guys would not be able to get married at all, despite all your delusions of grandeur about “deserving” an above average desi woman. If you deserved her, she would be your’s. Unfortunately due to racism many nice desi women who were loved and adored by their non-desi boyfriends were all but forced at gunpoint to marry some uncouth desi dude with zero respect for them. That’s changing though. We are now are now learning to stand up for true love and that’s why alot of you guys have to head back to India just to find a bride. Neither the American desi hotties nor the notties want you!!! Therefore it’s back to Patna.

Comment on A Brown Man in the West: The Ugly Truth by S.I.

S.I. — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 02:01:50 +0000

1) Not a mama’s boy.
2) Don’t want a woman who is domestic. Would prefer if she’s not. I think lots of Indian men want an equal, but I’ll give you that I may be in the minority on this one.
3) It sounds like you want men to “settle”… No one, man or woman, should settle. I just feel that they should be screened out “fairly,” if that makes sense. Almost all Indian men I know WANT an Indian woman, so they’re not anxious to cut brown girls out. Usually, the opposite is true when it comes to brown women and Indo men.

Hey, it’d be great if I were wrong.