Comments on: Guess Who’s Coming to Diwali

By: A woman's point of view...

A woman's point of view... — Mon, 05 May 2008 18:55:22 +0000

Reading the old books written by British observers during India’s British Raj era has offended some modern day desi with comments like, "the Indian is forever like a child" and "the Indian male is astonishingly effeminate", etc. Look at it like this; it’s 2008 and desi guys, in the west even, are still writing letters like the one to Prudie, so what to speak of a couple of hundred years ago in India itself, how juvenile your average Indian adult must’ve come across, being that the very large extended family would’ve had even more psychological (and physical) hold over each individual member.

As far as "effeminate" - it is one of the first things many observe upon travelling in India. The men have a machismo attitude (male privilege) encased in a weak and fragile frame that runs in fear of the first woman that stands up to their crap. What to speak of the PDAs expressed between males there, often expressed in ways that would make the transexuals here who often have to undergo professional training to master, turn green with envy!

All of this makes the average desi male not a "great catch" in the eyes of us desi females.

Sorry to be so blunt, but deal with it.

It’s one thing to honor the opinions and advice of one’s elders, especially loved ones like parents. But it’s another thing to mold one’s life and future entirely around their obviously out of date and ethically reprehensible views.

Either you stand for something or you don’t.

When will the desi male start to stand proudly for the woman he loves?

By: S.I.

S.I. — Mon, 05 May 2008 17:40:19 +0000

I can’t say I personally advocate Bala224’s choice of terminology. Hence the warning about this being offensive. But it’s colloquial, and he’s really all about equality actually. Anyway, being called a dick isn’t a glowing compliment either (not that we care).

No one wants to be genitals. It’s all about the universal truths that unite us on this blog.

And this ‘Curry’ guy DOES need to grow a pair.

By: A woman's point of view...

A woman's point of view... — Mon, 05 May 2008 15:56:37 +0000

What’s with this “vag” and “grow a pair” talk?

Someone who people who can’t stand up for themselves are “vaginas”?

What the hell kind of a sexist comment is that???

You desi guys really do need to grow a pair……………….. of ovaries!!!!

By: tushar

tushar — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 17:00:18 +0000

It should be understood by most South Asian immigrants that if they have children in the United States, those children will look at Americans, whether they are white, Latino, Asian, Native American, or *gasp* black, as potential mates. If they are uncomfortable with that, they will have to move elsewhere or stay in India.

By: radhiika

radhiika — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 21:16:59 +0000

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.

seriously, this is my biggest problem with indo-american guys (and indo-american adults from my generation) who don’t know how to act like adults.
however, it’s a value that our parents teach us at a very, very young age: i realize that many desis still feel obligated towards their parents and want to maintain a relationship with them.